Yeah exactly. I did learned that lesson the hard way as well since I was boxed in by the expectations of the people of my town and especially my Abuela for years. Hers especially since she did have way too many expectations towards me than anyone else in my family and very unrealistic ones at that.

Don’t get me wrong, she did mean well. But she was primarily driven by her grief for so long it unfortunately spread onto the rest of the family too.